Updated: November 26, 2010
I really like(d) bspcn.com. It (used) to be one of my favorite websites. But like your best stepdad, who suddenly pulls the belt on you for no good reason, even your preferred online resorts can sometimes disappoint. This happened to me with bspcn.com only a few days ago, when I read an article titled 50 things every guy should know how to do.
I read the article and three words popped to my mind: corny, cheesy and not manly at all. Rather than writing the ultimate list of real things real men should do, the article was a compilation of items you expect to find in the cheapest sitcom, where guys have roles and girls have roles and they don't mix together. Furthermore, it was extremely biased, the way Americans do their things, and somewhat not adequate for people with the IQ in excess of about 75. So I would like to formally reply to the article, address each and every one of the points raised, and then give you the real list of things every guy should know how to do. Now, let's reply - and then provide the REAL list.
Semi correct. Changing a tire is not a big deal. Changing it properly is. For example, you should not change a tire on a slope of any kind. Furthermore, if this means endangering your life by parking your car at a narrow shoulder and then juggling between working the wrench and avoiding incoming traffic, you should leave this task to AAA. After all, that's what you pay your car insurance for.
OK, so be it. I won't argue.
Fail. What if you don't like beer? It's not like drinking makes you manly or anything. It makes you grow
manboobs, which in turn, makes you less manly. Moreover, if you need to drink to get in the mood, this means you
lack imagination or confidence to be smart, witty and charming. Or you may be a coward.
Fail. Did you ever see Steven Seagal or Chuck Norris punch anyone? They have more style than that. Besides, resorting to physical violence indicates you probably are not the sharpest tool in the box. Smart men avoid fights, especially since they resolve nothing. And if you're really tough, no one is going to mess with you.
Fail. Too American. Turkeys don't taste that well. And Thanksgiving means little to people in Madagascar.
Medium correct. You can do that for sport's sake, but you pay money to your cable company. Let their technicians
work out the difficult stuff like color wiring and wall sockets.
Fail. Real men don't pick up women. They let women pick them up instead.
Fail. Skipping greens and fruit does not make you manly. It makes you fat. And you probably spend an hour on the
stinker every morning. Besides, greens and fruit are delicious. They complement food really well. Ask any French
or Italian guy if they skimp on vegetables or fruit in their cuisine, and trust me, they are both more suave and
manly than a typical American.
The same as with the cable. If you find university too challenging for you, then you might find intense interest
in assembling bits of wood and metal in a poor imitation of a grown man's Lego. And if your time is worth more
than the total cost of furniture you have just purchased in IKEA, you may as well ask one of the Swedish guys to
step it and do his magic.
Fail. You should play sports instead.
Fail. For the same reason we mentioned earlier.
Double fail. Most modern cars should definitely NOT be jump-started. In the United States, cars are still fairly
primitive by automotive standards, so this could apply, however you surely do not want to try this trick with a
nice new European car. You could end up frying your engine computer, the fuse box or something else. You may also
void your warranty and who knows what. If your car doesn't start, you should take it (or tow it) into the service
shop and let the professionals do the work.
Fail. Too American. Footballs are not thrown. They are kicked. Football is played by FEET, hence the term foot
ball. Foot ball, legs, feet, ball, football. And besides, real men play rugby, in the nude.
Fail. Racist and condescending.
Fail. No one wears ties anymore, unless they sell shoes or mortgages.
Fail. In the 21st century, the only reason you may want to sleep in a tent is if you're a soldier. Which means
that you enter a whole new area of cool and manly. Unless erecting a tent is an innuendo of some sort, hmmm.
Fail. Some people do not live near water bodies large enough to fish.
Fail. If you end up on a deserted island, you should die honorably. Otherwise, use one of the modern inventions
we have today, like the blowtorch.
Fail. Beer again?
Massive fail. Why would you want to use a chainsaw? In that regard, why not learn any of the modern crafts that
involve wood, metal or glass. Why not blow glass? Or use acid to etch in metal? Or become a longbow marksman?
How's a chainsaw going to help anyone in Austin, unless they're serial killers or actors in a cheap horror
Fail for the same reason as fishing.
Fail for the same reason as beer. Besides, in some religions and cultures, people do not drink alcohol or certain
types of alcohol. Whiskey is rather Anglo-Saxon in nature.
True. In fact, real men ONLY drive manual. You have two legs, use them! If you drive a car with the automatic transmission, you should be ashamed and probably quit forever. Hell, my wife drives manual, six-speed. Below, a real man driving a nice Merc rental, in sixth gear, at near 160kph.
Nope. Real men sit by and wait for women to do the hard work. Although, dogs are cute.
No. The GPS was invented for a reason. And if the satellite goes out, you have a much bigger problem than not being able to find your destination. It probably means there's a nukelar thingie going on. In fact, it's a handful of satellites, since they need to triangulate your position and speed accurately, and you can't do this with only one reference point.
If this refers to playing a doctor, then no. You'll end up molesting someone with a failed Heimlich maneuver and
they will sue you for fractured ribs and sexual assault. Leave the task of saving people to skilled personnel.
And if someone is meant to die from oyster, tough luck. Darwin Awards,
No. That's what women are for.
No. You should own shoes that do not need shining.
Only ten? How about a hundred? What's so special about ten push-ups? I can do more on one hand and I'm a computer
Fail. Men do not dance. EVER. Ever ...
OK, I'll accept that. It's fun.
Correctum, but then this is so trivial that it should not be mentioned. Like driving a manual.
As a physics graduate from a prestigious university, I don't find the challenge of fiddling with liquid feces that inspiring. My skills are better used solving the Schroedinger's equation or hacking the Linux kernel. But if you pursue the thrill of the avenue of smelly labor, enjoy yourselves.
Huh? Not sure what the author wanted here. What hotel? Where?
Fail. We talked about drinking before. And if you drink, at least be man enough not to have sissy hangovers.
OK, I'll accept. But what does it matter? Fake breasts are less important than stupidity, and they usually go
hand in hand. Now, most importantly, we're talking about spotting fake breasts on a woman, right?
Correctum. Read the Alphabet of Manliness by Maddox for accurate guidelines.
No. This task does not belong to your gender.
No. Why? Let women undress themselves while you watch.
Uh-oh. This sounds borderline perverted. What does unconventionally mean? Break it over someone's skull? Use your
bodily orifices to clench the bottle and pry it open? I would not want to drink anything that comes from a bottle
molested physically, thank you.
Fail. If you made a blunder, at least be a man and own up.
Fail. Offroading is for middle-aged men undergoing a serious sexual crisis. Real men go to Finland for a rally
course. Or they sign up for a Gymkhana workshop with Ken Block.
OK, I'll accept, but this means unraveling the mysteries of the female psyche. Can't be done. Unless you happen to own one of these cool brain thingie devices that do all kinds of mind magic.
Note: Image taken from Wikipedia, licensed under GFDL 1.2.
This statement is a paradox, I won't even address it. BTW, thank you for giving pedos a tip or three. Not.
Correctum. I'll accept. But this is basic human behavior.
Yes. Finally, one whole-hearted yes. But then, this will be really easy after you graduate the Finland rally.
No! Never. First, children are overrated. Second, if someone chooses to have
offspring, it's THEIR problem entirely. You should definitely not babysit and never EVER change a diaper. You are
the DINK, so why should you do things you don't believe in. It's offensive to your lifestyle. Just as any parent
would be offended if you asked them to abort their precious kids. Amounts to the same thing. Or ask a happily
married and monogamous couple to join you at the swingers' party.
Alcohol again? Damn. We get the clue. And no.
What? What's so special about shaving. How about learning how to shower?
No. Let women do that. And real breakfast does not contain bacon or mashed potatoes, sorry. If you need help learning about food, go to Italy on a skiing vacation and see what gives.
Here's the extremely short list of things every guy should know how to do (or do):
Your beard should be bristly and wiry and yet feathery and silky, at the same time. You need to be able to strike the pose between King Arthur and Maximus Meridius.
Or navy, air force and alike. Will teach you some manners.
'Cause I decided it should be so.
Work for 20 years in the same office, for instance. For that matter, you should watch Office Space. Remember those TPS reports? Hey, Peter, what's happening? Damn.
And sometimes yes. You don't know really, EVER.
Who and when depends on your social status. If you're middle-class, middle-aged, you are entitled to a divorced suburbian no more than five years your junior. However, if you drive a Maserati and wear a Patek Philippe wrist watch and have just turned 50, you're entitled to several mistresses, age 18 and above.
Something like Hook or E.T. Or Rambo.
And there you go, gents. Done. The rest is perks.
I hope I have clarified the things for you. Now you know the reality of how stuff works. Real men are not about savage displays of stupidity or operating heavy machinery. Real men are not about fake sensitivity or exercising the detoxicating powers of their liver. Real men are also not about doing dangerous and reckless things for the sake of doing them, because no one cares that you use your eyelids to open a bottle of beer.
Being a real man means taking care of your body so you don't end up a fat slob with a cardiac arrest at the age of 42, only because you were too proud to eat tomato and garlic. Being a real man means using your brain, just as our ancestors did when they invented the wheel, the polio vaccine and the atomic bombs. Being a real man means not following useless stereotypes, especially not the kind you see in TV shows like Friends or similar turdonics.
Being a real man is all about responsibility. It's about being gentle, chivalrous, rational, calm, calculated, courteous, and capable of analyzing the situation and using the right tools for the right job, be it a brick, a ninja throwing star or a pen. And finally, being a real man means not taking fun articles too seriously - either way. Haha!